A while back, my friend Augustine, CEO and founder of Digify, asked me to write something for his company, Digifyโs blog, about how I think about maintaining relationships between fundraising cycles when I was still an investor relations professional. As such, I wrote a mini two-part series on the frameworks and tactics I use to maintain LP relationships. Been given the liberty to cross-post on this humble blog of mine, in hopes that it helps any emerging managers or IR professionals here.
Voila, two of two! The first one you can find here (also linked below).
Authorโs note: My promise to you is that weโll share advice youโve likely never heard before. By the time you get to the end of this article, if youโre intimidated, then weโll have done our job. Because thatโs just how much it takes to fight in the same arena as people Iโve personally admired over the years and work to emulate and iterate daily. That said, this wonโt be comprehensive, but a compilation of N of 1 practices that hopefully serve as tools in your toolkit. As such, we will be separating this piece into Part 1 and 2. The first of which is about overarching frameworks that govern how I think about managing relationships. The second of which focuses on tactical elements governed by the initial frameworks brought up.
You can find the first piece of two here.
Itโs easy to stay high-level and strategic. I wonโt. I personally find it helpful to have tactical examples on how to execute frameworks on LP relationship management. As your mileage may vary, the below will hopefully serve as tools for the toolkit, as opposed to Commandments or the Constitution for investor relations practices.
Tactic 1: Co-create
In general, people who help create a product have more mental and emotional buy-in to the continued success of said product. Itโs why influencers leverage their fanbase to generate new ideas for content. Itโs why laws and propositions are voted on. Itโs why your parents asked what you wanted for dinner. Itโs why, if you’re a junior team member and want budget and resources for your project, you ask for feedback from leadership (often). While not every LP wants to be intimately involved in the day-to-day, and even if they donโt end up helping, it still goes a long way when you ask for their feedback and advice for major firm decisions, regardless of whether theyโre on the LPAC or not. Building strong LP relationships requires making them feel like true partners in the decision-making process. They want to be involved in:
- Hiring/promoting a new partner or GP
- Pivoting or expanding fund strategy
- Increasing the length of the deployment period or fund term
- Generating early DPI
- Breaking a partnership
LPs want to hear news before they become news. And if time and expertise allows, theyโd like to write the press release with you.
In addition, if you have the bandwidth and resources, host events with them on topic areas theyโre interested in. Even if itโs a small gathering of four to six people, itโs the intentionality and the willingness that counts.
Tactic 2: Follow up without asks, often and thoughtfully
I think a lot about Ebbinghausโ Forgetting Curve. Effectively, how long does it take someone to forget new information and as a function, how often do you need to remind someone for them to retain memory of that new piece of information? Within an hour, the average person forgets half of what they learned. Within 24 hours, the average person forgets 70% of it. And within a week, they forget 90%. I wonโt get too technical here, but if you are interested in learning more, I highly recommend reading this paper: Murre and Drosโ Replication and Analysis of Ebbinghausโ Forgetting Curve.
And so, in theory, every time someoneโs memory of you, of your thesis, or of your firm drops below 90% memory retention, you should remind them. Rough intervals of which are within minutes, within 2 hours, within a day, within a week, within 30 days, and so on. In practice, after you catch up with an LP, text them a note saying that youโll follow up within the day. And yes, texts are often far more effective in maintaining relationships with LPs than emails. Emails are read by other team members and often lost in inboxes. The only exception to this rule is if you or your LP is an RIA, and requires all communication to be archived, including text.
Outside of scheduled catchups, spend a lot of time tracking peopleโs hobbies and interests in your CRM, and sending LPs an article, video, interview or insight that reminded you of them or that you think theyโd genuinely appreciate; it goes a long way. Oh, and sending thank you notes more often than you think you need to, especially unprompted ones, really helps cement relationships. Over time, this will become a habit. Hereโs an example of an email I send often:
Hey [name],
Read this article [link article] this morning as I was grabbing my morning coffee and it reminded me of our conversation half a year back on [insert topic you were talking about].
One of my favorite lines from the piece was [insert quote from the article] โ something I thought you would really get a kick out of.
I know youโre busy, so thereโs no need to reply to this email, but I want to send this your way in case it’s interesting for you, as well as send you good vibes on this beautiful Tuesday.
Keep staying awesome,
David
Two things here:
- You do not have to write like me.
- Telling people that they donโt have to reply is more likely to result in a reply. Works for me 80-90% of the time when sending to a warm connection. Though, your mileage may vary.
When I had Felipe Valencia from Veronorte on my podcast, he mentioned that he brought Colombian coffee for GPs whenever he visited the States. I also know of IR people and GPs who do the same for LPs. And vice versa from LPs to Heads of IR and GPs, especially from our Asian counterparts, where gifting culture is more common. Do note though that if your LP is from a public institutionโsovereign wealth fund, pension, endowment, or sometimes, even a large corporationโindividuals are not allowed to accept gifts more than $50, or sometimes none at all.
Tactic 3: Prepare to meet ahead of budget cycles
One of my favorite lessons from Top Tier Capitalโs co-founder, David York, was on when to see LPs as a function of budgetary cycles.
โGoing to see accounts before budgets are set helps get your brand and your story in the mind of the budget setter. In the case of the US, budgets are set in January and July, depending on the fiscal year. In the case of Japan, budgets are set at the end of March, early April. To get into the budget for Tokyo, you gotta be working with the client in the fall to get them ready to do it for the next fiscal year. [For] Korea, the budgets are set in January, but they donโt really get executed until the first of April. So thereโs time in there where you can work on those things. The same thing is true with Europe. A lot of budgets are mid-year. So you develop some understanding of patterns. You need to give yourself, for better or worse if youโre raising money, two to three years of relationship-building with clients.โ
Knowing the timing of when to see who is important, especially these days when youโre required to meet and build relationships across the world. Strategic timing can make or break an LP relationship, particularly when it comes to securing allocations.
While the above are usually for pensions, corporates and sovereign wealth funds, endowments, foundations, and large family offices all have recurring cycles. And meeting a few months before the ball has to roll can mean the difference between you being a line item somewhere and being on top of the docket.
Tactic 4: The 11-star experiences
I first learned of this when tuning into a Reid Hoffman and Brian Chesky interview, which I highly recommend. It was further reinforced as I spent more time learning from people in the hospitality and culinary world.
To summarize, everyone knows what a 1- to 5-star experience looks and feels like. But when everyone is optimizing on a 5-point scale, to outcompete others, you must compete on a scale they have yet to conceptualize. And so a five out of five experience is one where you leave happy and content enough to leave a glowing review because all the boxes were checked. Everything in your ideal vacation, retreat, or dining experience was fulfilled. Soโฆ if thatโs the new baseline, then what does a six out of five experience look like?
Maybe thatโs sending a limo to pick someone up at the airport, so they donโt have to find their own way to the establishment. That could also be finding your guestโs favorite bottle of champagne and having it ready when they enter your premises.
So, if thatโs a six out of five, what does a seven out of five look like? Youโve pre-booked everything your guest is interested in before they show up and without them having to lift a finger. Or you learned that on their entire NY trip, your diners never had the chance to try an original New York hot dog from a street vendor, so you replace one course of the menu just so that they can try it. (True story. Would highly recommend reading Will Guidaraโs Unreasonable Hospitality.)
So, if thatโs a seven-star experience, what does an eight look like? What about a nine-star? 10-star? 11-star?
At some point, the stakes get quite insane. Meeting their role model from the history books. Using time travel or teleportation devices. Meeting aliens. But trust me, if competitive sports taught me anything, itโs that itโs good to envision the impossible as possible. And, the most important part to envision in this entire exercise is the genuine, and unstoppable smile that appears.
So what does this look like in practice? I cannot list everything out there, because itโs 1. not possible, and 2. if I can spell out a true 7- or 8-star experience, itโs generalizable. And if it is, it wonโt feel special. That said, let me list out some Iโve done in the past that hopefully serve as inspiration. Caveat, Iโm a Bay Area native, and I still live in the Bay Area.
- An LP tells me theyโre coming to visit the Bay. I send them a suggested itinerary based on the number of days theyโre here, which balances both work and some under-the-radar touristy things. On top of that, I send hotels I suggest, restaurants I recommend, and more. All of which I offer to call on their behalf because I know the staff there and I might be able to get them a discounted rate or an automatic upgrade.
- If I recommend a restaurant, and they agree to host a meeting there or just to try it out, I call the restaurant, tell them that theyโre really important people to me (can do so if Iโm a regular patron there already), and on top of that, I ask them to give the guests a kitchen tour.
- I ask a local chocolatier to custom make some bonbons for me that are inspired by the individuals visiting, that I give to the LPs when I meet them in person.
- If itโs a rush order, I call one of the long-established fortune cookie shops in San Francisco for them to do a custom order and write custom fortunes inside each fortune cookie. And inside each fortune is a fun fact about each person Iโve introduced them to meet while theyโre here.
- When it comes to intros, 70% of my intros will be relevant to their business interests. Startups. VCs. Other LPs. 20% of my intros are my recommendation of who they should meet but might not know they should. 10% are 1-2 people I think extremely highly of who are outside of technology and startups, but will offer a fascinating perspective to the world. A YouTuber with millions of subscribers. A legendary restaurateur. A lead game designer. An author. A Nobel prize winning professor. Naturally, I do the last selectively. My job is also to protect their bandwidth. For the last set of intros, I also donโt take intro requests.
All-in-all, LPs, like the rest of us, are human. Weโre emotional creatures. We love stories. We are naturally curious. We love wonder. Their job doesnโt always allow for them to be, especially with tons of back-to-back diligence meetings, conversations with stakeholders, and so on. So it makes me personally really happy when I can balance suspense and surprise when I help them craft trips to the Bay.
In closing
These are just a few strategies and tactics among many. The goal with this piece was never to be exhaustive, but to inspire possibilities and your favorite practices. And if youโre willing, I, as well as the Digify team, are always all ears about practices youโve come to appreciate and build into your own routine. Until the next time, keep staying awesome!
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